The most interesting fact that I’ve learned in this pregnancy is that EVERYBODY is apparently an expert on having and raising a baby- including that 40 year bachelor who still lives with his mom. Yup. You have the single or the couple who don’t plan on having kids anytime soon, who rant and b*tch about how ‘incredibly sad it is’ when parents make kids their entire lives and that you shouldn’t do it or you’re a failure at ‘being happy’. You have the old, and I mean old, people who think they remember everything from their last pregnancy 40 years ago and are still the absolute experts on the science behind child bearing, birthing and rearing. And you have the miscellaneous folks who you don’t understand why they’re even talking to you in the first place.
At the moment, I think my current peeve is the first, NOT well meaning advise from selfish people who plain and simple, don’t want to lose their social lives because all their friends are off having kids. Really now. If both parents plan on working full time and raising children, it’s not that they’re TRYING to not have lives around their friends but it’s simply, they don’t have the same amount of time to juggle all that anymore. You’ll just have to make do with the fact that if you see them, you’re likely going to see them with their kids and they’re likely going to talk about their kids a lot and with passion because that’s the challenge of the day. If one can't wrap their heads around how raising a child can take priority over weekly drinks with friends then boy does said person need some therapy. ... But. Said person won’t understand this till they get there in life, if they ever.
So for now, I will be dealing with the ill-intentioned folks, the same way I deal with the well-intentioned folks- nod my head politely, smile through gritted teeth and just thank them for their opinions. La dee da.
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